It’s Giving Red Flags
In this short film, Nessa anonymously runs a social media page called It’s Giving Red Flags under the name “The Ref.” Through this page, she encourages peers to share their relationship stories, calling out manipulative or controlling behaviors and showing how consent often comes into question. As Nessa processes these submissions, she begins to recognize red flags in her own relationship.
The film highlights scenarios that are often overlooked in mainstream, heteronormative portrayals of consent and emphasizes how easily harmful dynamics can be missed in real life. By sparking honest conversations, It’s Giving Red Flags invites students to reflect on how to identify red flags, disrupt unhealthy patterns, and prevent toxic relationships.


Teaching Guide
The It’s Giving Red Flags teaching guide expands on the film to support ongoing classroom discussion about the nuances of consent, the importance of communication, and the ways cultural conditioning influences how we respond to disclosures of harm. Through structured prompts and activities, the guide helps students critically examine relationship dynamics, practice consent skills, and foster healthier communities.
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